- 1 Secular Marriage Counselling (non-religious relationships)
- 1.1 About Secular Marriage Counselling.
- 1.2 Secular Marriage Counselling Services.
- 1.3 A Secular Approach to Marriage Counselling.
- 1.4 What about Religious Marriages?
- 1.5 Lesbian / Gay / Bisexual / Queer Couples?
- 1.6 A Distinct Approach to Marriage Counselling.
- 1.7 About Counsellor Dean Richardson MNCS(Accredited Registrant)
- 1.8 Marriage Counselling Costs
- 1.9 Marriage Counselling
- 1.10 Counselling Appointments.
- 1.11 Got a Question? Don't Hold Back…
Secular Marriage Counselling (non-religious relationships)Private Marriage Counsellor ~ Waterlooville. For when Religion plays no part in your Marital Affairs,
About Secular Marriage Counselling.
Whilst we might respect people’s needs for religious counselling (or spiritual guidance), for many of us in England we need marriage counselling from a competent, experienced, and non-religious marriage counsellor.
When non-religious/secular relationships need marital help, couples choose Marriage Counsellor Dean Richardson.
An effective therapeutic service that shows marriage-in-conflict how to develope their own, unique, approach will help them resolve marital problems… with no further need of counselling!
Secular Marriage Counselling Services.
A Secular Approach to Marriage Counselling.
Dean Richardson MNCS(Accredited Registrant) is a fully qualified and experienced marriage counsellor.
He employs effective approaches that have been around since the 1970s.
His counselling service includes two main therapeutic approaches for marriages:-
- Systemic (Family/Milan Associates) – an approach that sees relationships as a system (think: computer, or washing machine). A system has processes (behaviours that make us love our partner), and triggers (things that kick off an argument). By discovering what a marital system the couple has (unknowingly) created together, the couple and Dean can begin making changes that affect and improve the whole marriage,
- Psychodynamic – an approach that recognises unconscious processes. Such processes might be past experiences being replayed in the marriage (eg early childhood abuse), or poor parental relationships. Transference is a phenomenon where we respond to a person as if they were someone from our past. This can leave the other person confused and not understanding what role he/she has found themselves in. Whilst these experiences can introduce poor experiences into the marriage, by working together the couple and Dean can discover how to resolve the conflicts and… finally… put them to rest.
These two extraordinarily powerful approaches involve no religion at all.
What about Religious Marriages?
Everyone’s beliefs are welcome within systemic/psychodynamic marriage counselling, and this includes religious beliefs.
It’s simply that this effective therapeutic model is not religious in anyway, and so does not impose beliefs on the couple (beliefs that one or both partners may not invest any credence in).
When you both are struggling in your marriage, you can work things through without worrying about religious beliefs with Dean Richardson MNCS(Accredited Registrant) – the secular counsellor.
A Distinct Approach to Marriage Counselling.
- Dean's primary client is the couple's relationship (not the two individuals in the relationship). Inexperienced counsellors - or those untrained in relationship work - miss this important aspect when trying to work with a couple.
- Dean's primary aim is to become redundant: the couple can end their counselling work without thinking that they've become dependant on a counsellor; nor feeling they will have to come back for 'top up' sessions in the future.
- The couple stay only for as long as it's helping: meaning they might come to counselling for just a handful of sessions, or may choose to stay longer, until the couple can work on their relationship's needs on their own (again). Dean does not set a compulsory minimum (or maximum) period.
- The couple work with just the one therapist: and Dean practices "neutrality" which means both members of the couple will be understood by a single therapist (no risk of multiple interpretations by multiple therapists in the room). Plus… the common factors that are underlying the couple's relationship problems can be understood and communicated back to them by a single couple counsellor as a single, consistent, understandable whole.
- Dean does not solve the couple's current relationship problems. Dean is not a "Relationship Expert", doesn't promote his services as being so, and doesn't claim to have solutions and answers for the couple. Instead, Dean focuses on assisting the couple to learn and understand their own problems so that they can address and resolve matters using their own solutions.
- The couple develop their own unique approach that can be helpful for years to come. Looking at the relationship's problems as if they are a symptom of a system that has become faulty (say, like a washing machine that works until it comes time to rinse). Understanding… and then amending… the relationship's behavioural-system can help the couple understand what's at the centre of their problems. With understanding, the couple can learn to manage & resolve not only current problems… but future ones too… for themselves.
- Dean involves & immerses the couple in the counselling, rather than operating as a pseudo-advice-giving consultant with-all-the-answers.
- Dean's couple counselling approach integrates effective systemic and psychodynamic approaches. Rather than using whatever is the latest fad in therapy, Dean successfully applies methods that have been tried and tested for a long time (30+ years: systemic, 100+ years: psychodynamic). This helps the couple (through curiosity, hypothesising & modelling) learn what's happening in their relationship and then helps them develop their own 'fault' resolving strategies.
- Unlike some couple therapists who respond to questions with 'answers' (whether such generic answers can actually apply to the couple's specific relationship), Dean empowers the couple into being able to answer their own questions by understanding & resolving their own relationship-conflicts. This helps the couple become independent of the counsellor.
- Boundaries are important: the session is contained within 50 (or 90, optional) minutes, weekly, in a safe room, with the same counsellor. For example, the couple always knows that they can open up (difficult) topics but not fear getting swept up into long arguments… because the session's end time is set.
- Future "top-up" sessions become unnecessary: the couple ends counselling when they don't need the counsellor any longer. Dean doesn't "fix" the relationship for the couple, he assists the couple in learning how to fix their own relationship problems together. Added bonus: the couple uses the same techniques to manage future difficulties. Once the couple feel that they are more capable at addressing their relationship problems together, they can begin to bring couple counselling to a close without having to come back for "top-up" sessions (as if they'd somehow run out!).
About Counsellor Dean Richardson MNCS(Accredited Registrant)
You could choose any counsellor.
But… when you consider that this is probably the most personal and the most vulnerable that you're going to be with someone, you'd choose someone you'd trust, who demonstrated adept professional skills, who spoke plain English (who's happy to use as much swearing/plain language as you use yourself), and who works in partnership with his clients (he doesn't sit in silence, or just says "Hmm" for 50 minutes)…
…then you'd choose to meet with Dean Richardson.
Seems a simple choice, really.
Marriage Counselling Costs
Marriage CounsellingCounselling for a Relationship
- Suitable for individuals
- Suitable for marriages
- Suitable for groups
- Payable weekly
- Available in Waterlooville
- Available online video
- 50 minute session
- 90 minute session (£130)
About Dean’s Counselling Fees
Private counselling will cost you some money.
Marriage counselling sessions last for 50 minutes per weekly session, 90 minute weekly sessions are available if we think this would help, but these are optional.
The fee is per couple, per session and fees are payable on the day of our session.
You may pay for your session fees online (eg bank transfer, credit/debit card payment) or in person (cash, cheque [made out to Dean Richardson], credit/debit card).
In some circumstances, my fees may be negotiable if your income were to make private marriage counselling a struggle to afford, but this is on a case-by-case basis and I may not have any low-fees spaces available. Please ask…
Skype / Zoom Video Counselling- July 2021: During our national emergency, my contribution was to offer 14 years experience of Zoom & Skype Remote Counselling, suspending face-to-face sessions, and making more appointments available. As we move out of Lockdown I'll continue offering national video counselling, helping us to transition back (Video/Webcam Counselling Details).
Available appointments are as follows:-
|Couple & Individual Video Counselling (Zoom,Skype…)|
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|Couple & Individual Video Counselling (Zoom,Skype…)|
Got a Question? Don't Hold Back…
If you have a question about Dean Richardson's counselling services in Waterlooville, or just want to ask a question, maybe about making your first appointment, feel free to drop Dean a message any time…